Singletons

During my run tonight I really got to thinking... thinking about "the single life". I will fully admit that I would rather be single and 29 than married and miserable.  It seems so often that you hear of people my age that have been married and divorced already...I guess I consider myself thankful that I didn't make a choice early on that I would have regretted by now.

I was also thinking that I am relieved that I am not the only singleton in the late 20's/early 30's range--hell, there would be no hope otherwise!  :)  I think there are a few common denominators between the so called singletons...
1. Independence. We have learned to do things for ourselves.  We don't necessarily need someone to take care of us, or keep track of us on a minute-by-minute basis.  That doesn't mean that we don't crave that at one point or another. 
2. "The Wall".  I say it myself and I hear it often--I just need to find someone to break down the wall or I need to let my guard down.  Its not easy, but its something that inevitably needs to happen if you are going to let someone else in your life.  Time to let go of the burn that built the bricks that built the wall...or maybe you just need to find someone that owns a really sharp and sturdy chisel and let them go to work.  
3. Success.  Many of us singletons didn't get their MRS. Degree in college and got caught up in career paths, success, money and finding a great job.  We also tend to work too much and spend a little too much time obsessing about jobs (GUILTY AS CHARGED!). 

These denominators aren't necessarily a detriment, but feel they play a factor in many ways...

I throw in my normal "Don't get me wrong" disclaimer... I am so happy for the friends that have found their happiness (whatever that means to them individually), or ones that are quickly on their way.  I will say I am contented by the fact that I am not completely there yet, but will be REALLY happy one day when I am.